It is always interesting watching the wet behind the ears "men" in the various COG's determine what they think women need and feel. Most of the men doing this already have problems in their own marriages and write these articles because they feel their spouses are not respecting them as they should. This message started with Herbert Armstrong and Loma and is carried on to this day by weak impotent little men.
Philadelphia Church of God's Joel Hilliker writes:
The Basic Needs of a Man
1. He needs to be admired.2. He needs honest feedback.3. He needs to be respected for his role as the leader.4. He needs to be bolstered and encouraged.5. He needs recognition for his achievements and success.6. He needs the loyalty and support of the opposite sex.7. He needs a challenge, and to be understood for his masculine interests, drives and ambitions.8. He needs a woman to be enthusiastic and responsive to his ideas, suggestions and requests.9. He needs appreciation for the special things he does.10.He needs a sense of self-worth.Men—here is the list of a woman’s needs. Working to understand these and fill these needs will make you a more valuable companion and friend to the single women in the Church. Pray that God would give you the love, wisdom, kindness, tact, patience and tenderness to exhibit these qualities.The Basic Needs of a Woman
1. She needs attention.2. She needs appreciation, approval and sincere compliments.3. She needs people and personal relationships.4. She needs to be loved, respected and treated with tenderness.5. She needs a shoulder to cry on without fear of rejection.6. She needs to know that her opinions count.7. She needs to know a man appreciates her differences & tries to understand her emotional makeup8. She needs a man to tell her of his plans so she’ll know how to properly prepare for them.9. She needs to be assured that he is mindful of her physical limitations.10. She needs for a man to be sensitive, protective and caring of her total welfare.This outline concluded these lists by saying that these needs and differences can be summed up in two broad principles. These are points we should remember in our dealings with the opposite sex. We should picture them as if stamped on their forehead or as a sign hung around the neck:· For the man: needs a sense of self-worth—treat with respect.· For the woman: fragile—handle with care.